Is Your Child Irritated or Irked?
Irritability in children is their response to pain, discomfort or fear. These few factors bring a huge change in the entire lifestyle of children, something that parents, for sure, don’t want for kids. And for the purpose, experts opine that parents need to get to the root of the trouble. However, it’s not just as easy as it sounds, tougher yet for parents. The first step that parents need to start analyzing from is to know whether a child is irked or irritated. And then how regular. And then with what intensity. However, there is a difference in a child getting irked at times and the child getting irritated, edgy, miffed and frustrated over minor things so frequently that the child’s parents, teachers and peers feel that something is just not right about his behavior. Moreover, this kind of irritability doesn’t go away with age, it’s just that the children manifest it differently at an older age.

Chronic Irritability in Early Childhood
Young children (3-6 years) manifest chronic irritability by crying and whining for a long time and soothing also doesn’t help; throwing things offered to them, hitting and biting others, throwing tantrums, holding breath for long time when upset, sleeping too little or too much and same is with eating, showing anger by yelling or screaming, showing restlessness and moodiness, gross and fine motor hyperactivity, aggressive and oppositional.(the highlighted, somehow, reads incomplete to me)

Chronic Irritability in Middle Childhood
Look for the following signs and symptoms in a grown-up child (6-12 years); if some or all of the symptoms are present in the child, he needs help. This kind of irritability is not normal and needs an expert’s intervention. Talk to his teacher, counselor, and doctor. This will give the child a much-needed relief from the problems, such that he might be able to lead a healthy and normal childhood.

  • Often complains, whines and has long crying spells. He does not feel sorted even after talking out his concerns with you and continues to feel unsettled regarding that issue, even though you have offered possible solutions to his problems.
  • Is edgy and gets angry over minor things. He may yell at you, his siblings or peers in one of his fits of anger.
  • Is often disobedient and defiant. He is increasingly becoming oppositional and aggressive.
  • No interest in play activities. He shows no interest in play or other activities around him. Has lost interest in previous hobbies.
  • Not much interested in academics and school. His lack of interest in academics is corroborated by his falling grades. His school attendance is poor.
  • Social withdrawal is evident. He remains distant from parents, teachers, and peers too.
  • Not at all spirited. He can’t take even friendly teasing from anyone.
  • Low-energy levels. He feels a lack of pleasure in most of the things that should have interested him at his age.
  • Gets frustrated very easily, especially if the tasks are challenging and he can’t get his head around them.

Rule Out Any Other Reason for Irritability
If your child has no chronic ailment or life-limiting illness, if there has been no new change in your child’s life, like a new place, school, nanny, step-parent, or a new sibling. If your child has not faced any kind of social isolation, emotional and physical absence of any one or both the parents, divorce of parents, physically and emotionally abusive parents, recent death of a close relative or doesn’t have a parent with some mental health issue, then there are no obvious reasons for him to be irritable. If he still manifests too much irritability, you need to consult a doctor. (read this part again, this too is incomplete to read, starting with “if … “ and then ending right there, no “if” related clause.)

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